Neither Saints Nor Sinners

21/01/2008 by Ellie at TFP.

NEITHER SAINTS NOR SINNERS

When I am explaining compassionate communication I sometimes get the reaction that people think they have to be ‘good’ to use it and that they are ‘bad’ if they do not use it

Compassionate communication is a different way of talking; it’s a way of being more in tune with how we may be feeling in the moment. 

There are lots of times when I am feeling angry and resentful that all I want to do is hurt back by sarcasm or attacking by inducing guilt.  These may not be the ‘right’ way of communicating but at that moment in time that may be all I can/want to do.  That is ok I do not need to punish myself by deciding I was communicating ‘badly’.

But I also know that by responding in this way I will not get a harmonious resolution.  By using cc for my own self-development I am more likely to increase harmony in my life much more quickly and effectively.   By tuning in more quickly to what feelings and needs drove my behaviour  I am better able to change my responses and in this way enable  a resolution that meets all our needs.

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